One of my greatest struggles in ministry is helping the people who come to my office. They are usually not members of my church and they are usually looking for money to pay a bill, get food or fill their gas tank. I know that paying the bill or giving them a gift card to the grocery store or gas station is a temporary fix, a band-aid on the bigger issues they face. My help is needed and appreciated, but ultimately it is incredibly temporary as evidenced by the fact that most of the people I help end up coming back for the same help again. What adds to my frustration is knowing that even if I were able to do something more for them (find the a job or job training, etc, etc), 90% will always be poor. Is this what Jesus meant when he said “The poor you will always have with you”?
Over the weekend I heard an article on “This American Life” about a Harlem program called “Baby College” that seeks to help parents of infants and toddlers be better parents. They cited research that shows assistance to adults (and even teens) produces temporary results, but assistance to infants and toddlers, especially in the area of communication and literacy has a lasting effect and does the greatest good towards ending the cycle of poverty. Do I stop helping adults? Well, no. Because if I continue to help the adults I am making a difference in the life of a child by keeping food on the table, a roof over their heads and air conditioning or heat when it is most needed. And this help is given knowing that my family is also just a paycheck or two away from financial disaster ourselves. (Gulp!)
So today I received a phone call from an ex-offender who had been released from prison a few months ago. The story goes that he has been imprisoned for most of the last 25 years. He got into trouble as a teen and at 16 years old was sentenced as an adult for what sounded like an accidental death. He claims to have been willed the deed to a house in my town by his grandmother who died back in December or January. He was staying with a cousin who lives in a government project that doesn’t allow ex-offenders to visit for more than 72 hours and his time was about to be up. He needed $100 for gas and food to get him to my town which is about an 8 hour drive away.
How’d he choose my church? Well he was part of a prison ministry that was administered by a seminary affiliated with my denomination. Now that he’s out, he knows he needs to get involved in a church to help him stay on the straight and narrow. He chose my church because of its affiliation and location in the town where he has a house to claim.
Unfortunately I have been unable to verify the claims he has made about having connections here. The folks with the same last name know of no relation that fits his description and the address he gave is not a valid house number on the named street. It’s all very troubling. I want to help, but how?
What comes to mind is a poster that hung on the door of the HR person at a previous workplace. “Failure to plan on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part.” Sounds a bit tough for this situation, especially when I have a gospel mandate to serve. He gave me 2 1/2 hours to get him $100 and he’s not even in the same state as I am. It took me 3 hours just to get a hold of the pastor of the local church he tried to get help from yesterday. In the meantime I searched on the internet and even called his local law enforcement agency to investigate options for assistance. I also called a member of my congregation who is involved in prison ministry here. And I checked with the courthouse to see if I could verify his relative’s name and location.
My church member encouraged me to help, but none of the other pieces seemed to come together. Have I failed? It feels like I have.