Yes, that’s me. On the Myers-Briggs Scale I’m INFP, but just into the introvert. Sometimes I get energy from being with people and sometimes I just need to be alone. Today made me think about how much I enjoyed greeting people as they were entering or leaving church. Especially when you’ve known people long enough to be able to ask how this is and how’d that go and how is your relative/new job/favorite sports team, etc. And then there were the people you could always count on for a positive word of “we’re glad you’re here, that prayer really touched me, I enjoyed your communion meditation” or even just a nonsense greeting like “snowflakes and candy canes!”
You’d think that since I’m not working this December that I would have done Christmas cards. I’ve thought about it. I really want to do it. I want to say thank you to all those folks who sent cards and made calls and gave me a hug when they saw me at the grocery store, but I’m just not quite sure what to say. I want to tell them the truth, but I don’t want them to hurt anymore than they are. I suppose I should just say thank you for your support. I want to say “I’m sorry for disappointing you.” “I miss you.” “How is your (fill in the blank)?” “What can I pray for you?” “This is Christ’s body, broken for you.”
In my 17 years in ministry this is the first Advent/Christmas that I have not been serving in some kind of ministry. I’ve always either been in a congregation, ecumenical agency or denominational ministry. I’m at a loss because I don’t know what to be doing if it isn’t church work. I suppose it will be better when we finally leave town and head to my parents’ house. I haven’t been at Christmas Eve in my home church since 2001. Not that long ago really, but in those days I was a denominational person and didn’t have to worry about a congregation because I was one of the congregation. But this time it’s different. I’m not part of a congregation; I’ve been cast out. Not by the congregation, but by a small group from the congregation. How do I not be in a place where I know the majority of the people wish I was there?
There seems to be a silent, but growing problem in our church of younger clergy being pushed out by older clergy who feel threatened. Or is there something I’m missing? One peer suggested part of the problem is that younger clergy have been taught teamwork while the older generation was not. But there’s also natural leadership style and personality. Add to that the lack of understanding of laity for the clergy role and that we are all speaking the same terms without clarifying the definition of the terms. What do you mean when you say “team ministry”?
Christmas. It’s coming. I want it, but I’m not really ready. I long to go stand in the midst of the chancel at my former church, look up at the window of Jesus and have him step down and take me in his arms and tell me it’s gonna be all right. “Look ahead! I’ve got something in mind just for you. Be patient. It will come at just the right time.”